Are you happy? Sometimes?
Most of the time? Despite frustration, arduous toil, stress,
pain, suffering, depression? Or is it next to impossible to feel
‘happy’ when experiencing these? Do you associate happiness with
feeling ‘good’, relaxing, enjoying, pleasuring? Is it just the
brief relief from oppressions and assaults that makes you ‘feel
good’? So you pursue activities that ‘lift your spirits’:
Sightseeing, shopping, hobbies, projects. You enjoy eating a
nice meal, watching T.V., attending a concert, sharing with
friends. These can make life agreeable. But do they make you
happy? Do you look forward to each day? Do you relish many
moments with a smile. Does laughter come easily? Are you glad
you are alive? Hope so!!
Life is like a riding a roller coaster. Not a day goes by that
you don’t experience pain. You may be in a good mood one moment
and then ba boom!! A rock falls on your toe; you ‘catch a cold’;
an acquaintance maligns you. A never ending array of ‘nice’ and
‘not nice’ confronts you daily. But YOU are a CONSTANT. YOU ARE
YOU NO MATTER WHAT. So it is imperative that you develop and
maintain a positive attitude. One that accepts whatever
‘negative’ comes your way … remembering that “this too shall
So how do you sustain a ‘sunny’ outlook? What must you do to
feel comfortable with yourself and your life each day? Being
‘fairly’ happy most of the time. Here are some suggestions:
Be THANKFUL that you have existence, that you are you, unique in
the universe. Say “I am alive; I am me; thank you God.” Be
always grateful for the miracle of you. Never take your
‘aliveness’ for granted.
ENJOY LIFE BY DOING WITH PURPOSE … ‘noble’ purpose that is. You
are determined by what you think and do. You are relatively
happy most of the time or sad depending on your motives and what
you are pursuing. Sound reasonable? Think about it. Doing what
you ‘should’ be doing is essential. You should feel good about
yourself and improve your inner self a little each day.
RELISH EXPERIENCES. They are yours: All your sensory activities,
impressions, the choices and responses you make. The ‘feast’ for
your eyes and ears should astound you. Be in awe. Never tire of
the variety. The wonders of the world are yours and they are
limitless. Too many people go through life ignoring the fabulous
workings of nature and ‘man’ all ‘round them. Grow in your
appreciation … of the industrious ant, the engineering of a
bridge, the cosmos. Love it all and you will be amazed at how
the world becomes more and more a joy to be part of.
CULTIVATE YOUR ABILITIES … most especially your spiritual ones.
Wonder always. Take in and react to beauty. Use your imagination
often. Honestly and sincerely discern what is ‘best’ for you and
for others. Then make commitments. Marvel at what you have
accomplished. Accept your shortcomings. They become
insignificant as you develop confidence in your loving …
everything and everybody. Let peace and joy reign in your heart
each day. You are striving as best you can.
HAVE FAITH. YOU WERE CREATED BY LOVE FOR LOVE. Never stop
loving. For you are an integral part of a magnificent design.
You are an entity sharing space with kindred souls on a journey
… towards Pure Spirit residing in PEACE.
Consider: The happiest people in the world are those who
- Commit to understanding and caring for what is outside
- Accept life’s vicissitudes as challenges and opportunities to
- Strive past inevitable ‘shortfalls’ with intrepid faith and
hope in the triumph of LOVE.
Of course ultimate happiness is not possible in our physical
state. We are in a process that ties us to so much discomfort.
But we can still feel a steady sense of joy … increasing slowly
as we love.
One last point: YOU decide how you handle your world. YOU decide
what you deem important. You may experience pleasure and decide
that you will pursue it vigorously. Many red flags will go up
however. Hedonism, addictions, these can become obsessions that
hinder more wholesome pursuits. You may lose friends, become
dissipated and start down a ‘self-serving’ road deceiving
yourself into thinking that this is happiness. Not!! You will
find yourself unfulfilled, empty. For happiness depends on the
‘you inside’ having a growing, caring relationship with what is
‘outside’ you. Only loving pursuits can fill your heart and
bring joy and happiness. It is that simple.
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