Set goals for yourself: Little ones, big ones.
Prioritize them. Each day do something that will take you one
step closer to accomplishing a goal. Even if you never fully
realize what you strive for, you will have gained experience and
some discipline. In a very real sense you will always succeed.
For example, you can jog for months planning to run in a
marathon. Your legs cannot handle long distances. Why fret? You
have improved your health and stamina. Accept your limitations,
what you are capable of. Just keep trying to do the best you
Be flexible. Try things but be honest with yourself and know
when to give up. You will not be able to do everything you want
to. Either because of circumstances or your own shortcomings,
you will never realize every goal. So what?! LIFE IS EXPERIENCE.
Be grateful for what you have learned and move on.
Never compare yourself with others. For your success is based on
your talents and abilities … no one else’s.
Never let regret raise its self-centered head. The past is past.
It does not exist anymore. Lost opportunities or doing the wrong
thing … these are part of living. You grow a little because of
them. Just try to be smarter next time.
Never become obsessed with a goal. Never let it determine you …
especially in mundane matters. For example it is easy to fall
into the vain, self-conscious trap: You must have money and
material things … this is what the world judges you by. So you
develop skills, labour intently and gradually accrue the
‘trappings of wealth’. “Whoop di doo!” You have ‘arrived’. Or
have you? Have you ignored what really matters? Forming
relationships, loving, understanding and caring for what you
encounter. What a mistake! Letting monetary goals rule you. You
will most certainly miss out on what truly fulfills you. And the
longer you go down the road of self-serving acquisition the more
difficult it will be to realize your loving potential within.
This is the greatest tragedy in life: Ignoring spirituality and
clinging to the transient. So use good judgment in setting goals
and discard them if they become impediments to loving.
If you do reach a goal, feel some justifiable pride. Nothing
wrong with this. But the glow of satisfaction is brief. You must
move on … with more confidence and revitalized vigour … always
keeping in mind: Your ultimate accomplishment is building the
best YOU. Your goals are temporal and temporary. You are not! So
choose your goals wisely, the prominent ones. They should be
meaningful and help you go in the direction you truly want to
go. Never compromise, but if you do, acknowledge your mistake
and make the necessary changes. For life is too short to spend
exorbitant time and energy on the frivolous. Acquiring
necessities and some non-essential niceties is fine. Fun and
pleasure make life more bearable. But these should never be your
primary goals. For they are self-oriented and make loving
It is not unrealistic to commit to one major goal in your life.
Perhaps: BEING A KIND, CARING PERSON WHO IS TRYING TO LOVE MORE
AND MORE. Other important goals you set should help in some way
to realize your major goal. For instance establishing a family,
developing relationships, providing some useful service or
product in society. Of course there will be many things you need
to accomplish to survive. As long as these do not hinder your
progress in reaching your major goals, you are certainly on the
Think of your goal of loving as both a destination and
motivation. Decisions about undertakings will be so much easier
if you put them in the context of ‘will they fit in with my
major goals’. You will always know where you are going and how
to get there. Life’s experiences will be meaningful and
fruitful. You NEVER need worry; your loving will always give you
comfort and direction. LOVING becomes your reason for being …
now and FOREVER.
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