Attitude precedes everything you think or do.
Called ‘frame of mind’ or ‘mindset’ this essential part of your
life should be dealt with constantly. You are in a good mood …
everything looks rosy. A foul mood? … look out world!
Frustrations, anger, physical discomfort: These certainly play a
major role in how you go about your day. You have known people
who go through life with a perpetual scowl. They often become
the butt of jokes. Why?
You must avoid falling into a ‘negative outlook morass’. It
undermines physical and mental health and it certainly is not
conducive to happiness much less ‘spiritual-ness’. Dwelling on
the negative is self-centered, childish. “I want everything to
be the way I want it.” “Life is too tough; I hate it.” Forget
that everyone has problems and that developing resilience is
part of the growth process. It is impossible to be a caring
individual, appreciating all you encounter, if you are
constantly allowing the world to ‘beat you back into your box’
with all your petty concerns. Brief moments reflecting on
‘painful’ experiences are fine. But you must quickly extricate
yourself from this self-pity and embrace the positive. Never
abdicate your commitment to love and happiness. Whatever happens
in your life you must always return to ‘love mode’ and get on
with your quest for spiritual growth.
So learn to accept your ‘baggage’. You along with every other
human being have been given physical challenges and social
heritage. No matter what plagues you bodily, you are still you.
No matter what you have been taught or what you hold ‘sacred’
you will always have a core to your being which can choose … and
change. Your phenomenal resources to love will always be with
you. Do your best to overcome obsessions and rigidities.
Constantly look outside yourself and care. In this way you will
find yourself. And much of the negative you have been carrying
will disappear. Amazing.
Your dog has just died. Hit by a passing vehicle. After your dog
walker let go of the leash. On a street that is well marked “25
mph, children at play”. You just spent $360 on an operation for
your precious pet. You also built her a dog ‘house’. You loved
her more than life itself. Can it get any worse? Choo Choo was a
rare breed worth thousands and she was pregnant! Mmm. More? The
little darling was a gift from a loved one. What else? Dear
little Choo Choo was to be featured on the front page of a
national magazine; a reporter and photographer are arriving any
moment. “Oh boy! This is really bad!” Huh? What’s that? You’re
waking up? A dream? Thank God! “Where’s my little Choo Choo?”
“Here girl, here girl.” “Let’s go for a walk … in the backyard.”
“Just you and me.” “No more dog walkers; I promise.”
Life’s negative experiences are never quite what they seem. Do
not take them too seriously. For whatever misfortunes befall you
THEY WILL PASS. Learn something from them. Your emotions and
feelings are wondrous means for caring intensely. Feel good
about yourself when you are deeply moved. And though you may cry
and feel sad, NEVER STOP CARING. Memories linger. Cherish what
brings a smile. Revisit what was nice for you. In this way you
can remain comfortable and secure. For your outlook on life will
be a POSITIVE one. It beats the alternative!
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